Tag Archives: Parenting

Bi Christmas – with children

‘Mommy! Dad said Jesus is dead but it’s not true! He is being silly, isn’t he mommy?’ Ah, the joy of Christmas has just increased tenfold now that Z has started school, albeit in their nursery class! So here I am, dear readers, trying to deal with yet another taboo and showstopper of most British conversations: religion. Up to last […]

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Becoming a parent and staying bi-visible

I am not out as bisexual in the world of the yummy mummy. My baby hides me in a closet packed with heteronormative assumptions.  Think having an opposite-sex partner makes your bisexuality invisible? Try taking a child with you everywhere too! I have no intention of opening that door as I need the company and support of the other mums. […]

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Queer Parenting: Gender Play

‘Let’s play mommies and daddies!’  This is Z’s often recurring phrase during our days together.  Despite noticing and appreciating that she always uses the plural for her favourite game, and that she does indeed organise both adults and children around her so that there are multiple moms and dads in the game whenever possible, I cannot help feeling a little […]

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Let’s Talk About Sex

Queer Parenting in the Sticks, part three. According to the Durex survey in 2005, one in five adults have sex three to four times a week. Five percent are actually having sex daily. Unfortunately, I could not find any statistics on how frequently parents of young children have sex in this survey. The babycentre website came to the rescue with […]

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Welcome to the club

Queer Parenting part 2 Every Friday my daughter and I visit the Library (this is apparently far less dull than it sounds, especially for a three year old, trust me!) As we navigate our way into town on buses, I am reminded of how the world sees me now that I am a ‘mom’, leaving me always a little surprised […]

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Brutal honesty

Queer Parenting part 1 Three years, nine months and 14 days ago my life changed more than I could have ever imagined when I first embarked on this journey. In fact, cliché as this may be, my life changed the moment I decided to get pregnant, nearly five years ago. Yet, a question stayed with me from those first days […]

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